I was talking to a friend a few days ago... and she said "why are you single?"
and i thought "is that a rhetorical question or does she really want an answer?"
but before i could coin an appropriate response she said "you should hurry and just do it, just do it... you are just being choosy and you need to stop being so choosy... being single is so wrong!"
"whoa whoa whoa! hold it there" i said, "where is all that coming from? being single is not wrong dear, infact i think it can be quite awesome and has got its many benefits!" she shrugged and said " i dont know of any!"
the conversation ended shortly after that...
but on and off, I have been thinking about the benefits of being single... the "pros and pros" and now i have decided to write a few here...share with y'all... now i'm not saying there are no cons to being single, but today i am focusing on the "pros"
and i have numbered everything "1" cos its all about being single.
Here goes
1. you can have more than one man fussing around you
1. and you can do breakfast, dinner or lunch with any man that catches your fancy
1. you can be the "girl" in so many people's lives! including your dad! (and not in a dating sense!)
1. the money you earn is all yours!
1. you dont need to justify how you spend it or what you buy
1. there are no in-laws to manage
1. you have the bed to yourself
1. and have someone in it, only when you want for as short as you want...lol
1. you are not accountable to anyone else but yourself - you can up and go wherever you like whenever you like (and i have done that a few times)
1. your time is yours, not under some "new management"
1. you can work late and not feel guilty or have to apologize or negotiate
1. yes your life is not a constant dialogging or negotiation
1. you can be as selfish as a cat
1. you cook or buy food only cos you are hungry... there is no other mouth to consider
1.your life is exactly that - yours!
feel free to contribute to this list
remember the numbering is "1"
I am here.
3 months ago
35 comments:
lol. Nice.
My contribution. You're not required to have sex when u're pissed, irritated, or tired.
the list can go on & on, i'm sure...even if somethings here are so incorrect, i'm not adding to it...truth is, the moment you loose your singleness most of these JOYS is gone...advice stay SINGLE...or whatever make you happy
@tigeress
yes! yes! yes! you are right.... now why didnt i think of that
@baroque
do make up your mind which side you are on...
and you should contribute from that mind of yours since your advice is "stay single"
hehehehe totally feeling this post..
my own take is whatever stage of life we are at, we should learn to enjoy it to the fullest...
i sometimes miss my single days but i am enjoying the married days and milking every single good thing that comes with it till the little ones come..cuz then it is a different story all together..that i also have to enjoy!
so here's to all SINGLES- ENJOY while it lasts!!!!
"1. you dont need to justify how you spend it or what you buy"
Pray tell, do married babes (oops, women) defend how they spend their income? I think not.
1. you can watch whatever type of movie catches your fancy
1. You can veg or spaz out without worrying about calling or entertaining some other person
1. My toilet seat is always down just the way i like it
1. don't have to deal with his irritating friends or family members
I especially love the one you posted about food. Not having to worry about catering to another person's meal is the freedom I know I will miss the most when i am married with kids.
Enjoy your singleness while it lasts babe, you'll never get it back but honestly i think i love being married more than being single...
And i think the number 1 should have been, you can be selfish when you want...lol...it's all about you! but really do and get married jare!
@aloted
thanks for contributing without offending the married people... you bloody politician!
you are right though
@rethots
if you are married, try and make a major expenditure without telling hubby and see how it goes... you will see!
when you are single, you dont have to remember that you have both agreed to spend money in a particular way to achieve joint goals! lol
@MPB
goody goody!
@writefreak
see yourself!
lol!
typical!
shey i'm single too, who's side do you think i am on?...with your small waist...you wan mess for house make only you smell am abi, enjoy your Singleness my love...if in 730 days neither of us are married, lets hook up & marry each other...LOL
...Deal?
Loving this.
My take:
1. You can go out all night no explanations.
1. You can sleep till whenever no need to get up.
1. You can talk to as many men as you want and say anything.
1. You can wear what you please.
I love MPB's take on things.
don't mind rethots...when he gets married he will know how far..lol..
my friend go and marry joo and stop justifying singleness....
Just kidding. Trying to tug your little toe. You okay babe?
@baroque
you see, that's another one you have inadvertently added -
1. you dont have to stick another person's mess mess!
and as per 730 days, why wait till then and make each other a second to the last (you dare not make me a last resort) resort?
okay if in 400 days we are both single, we do it!!! deal?
@lusicous
you sound totally lazy and decandent! groovy!
@aloted
he doesnt know anything ni! lol
how you dey?
@adekunle
where the heck have you been?
and yes i will marry, the moment i lose this jack made by commit & mentphobia!
i think i would totally miss my single days. i love my relationship days but im scared of my married days to come. i think i might feel suffocated. husband and kids, whew!!!
well, so why r u single?
lmao
trust someone to return to that original question
classic!
I have noticed that question usually comes from girls who found it difficult getting men and just cant get over the fact that they finally did...
@afro
atta sis!
you are astute! as usual
@Tyger
I love you so much and reading ya blog. I understand the single phase, enjoy it while it last. Let us not forget here that God created man to have a woman. When your Mr right comes and he fits the coin for you, you won't ask for your single days anymore. I hope you are doing great.
The joy of singlehood is the ability to fart and not worry...ha ha ha.
@yankeenaijababe
i agree with you
and yes you rock!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being single
unless of course when you have two tickets to a show and still end up going alone lol.
how you doin gurl?
@badderchic
two tickets and nobody to go with is being single and lifeless! now that is not what single should be!
apart from the freaky cold weather, I'm doing good! and you?
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when you are single, you can sleep in on the weekend and not worry about taking care of the kids. Oh, and you can use the toilet in peace, without kids coming to 'inspect' what you are doing. And oh,....
let me stop. lol!
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@solomonsydelle
lmao
you sound so totally on point!
@boobsistas
love your blog
I think the food part is no 1 for me, i just cant be bothered to cook except im reallllly pressed for pepper or something that feels like my cooking. Being 'unsingle' will change all that...lol
Someone asked me the same question...
@omosewa
you are kidding!
and what was your response?
I really hate that question, it's quite annoying really. People need to realise that being single is not the same as having leprosy.
my #1 reason is being accountable to just yourself. If i go to a party and want to dance naughty, i don't have to worry that I am "disrespecting" someone.
i do not agree...
@taynement
you sound angry
although i do agree that being single is not the same as having leprosy - writefreak please take note.
@secret diary
you dont agree with what?
and when did i say being single is the same as having leprosy? is this girl alright? lol...shu!
@writefreak
I think its there, at the back of your head... unsaid! lol
You're not well!
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